Sandra RadjaComment

Building tolerance (and immunity) through diversity

Sandra RadjaComment
Building tolerance (and immunity) through diversity

A  friend said this recently - I want to be loved.

By what definition or qualities does this received love look like? What does it mean to ask for something from another person or to even ask for something from the universe?

I have an extensive history of travelling. At one point it couldn't get wild enough for me. It was all about feeling the trust within the journey, of feeling alone and able to make it. Travel started off fast and go slower and slower until I seemed to while the days away sitting in one spot watching a cow walk past me. That was it, my day was that. I felt supremely accomplished and somehow managed to relate it to fellow guest house person in a story telling that could last....well as long as I wanted it to. And the person listening had the time to, well listen.

And vice versa.

When I tell people about why I loved India so much it was that moment there, with another human. And it happened all the time. For those of us that had been there past a certain period of time we could detect another traveller that knew this secret - you were seen, you were heard, and you felt a part of everything. Alone but never lonely. You didn't have to rely on one or two people (as a guarantee?) to get that feeling, everyone was a temporary family member and it was unlimited. As long as you were brave enough to go out in the day, you were supported.

Ayurveda (and Buddhism) believes that the separation of spirit is the root of all that ails us. Look around, folks are burrowing deeper into their homes and creating invisible Trump walls. Your immunity relies on mixing with others and getting strong from the experience. If you shut yourself away, the moment anyone says something a little hurtful, your world could crumble.

Our tolerance levels are at an all time low - I had someone over to dinner with a laundry list of what they couldn't eat. We are wearing badges of sensitivity and baulking at anyone that isn't rushing around to cater to our whims. 

It would only take a mild plague to throw us down at this point.

This is an interesting, I didn't know it was going to go this way, comment this morning. One I'm going to muse on further too - that to build your immunity requires a form of merging with others.  

Someone asked why I moved back to the city recently. My answer was to be around a bunch of opinions that didn't agree with another. People crave intentional communities as the answer to living well and in accordance with their values - I've yet to observe one that worked without creating it's own dissenting faction. 

We are meant to bump along. It's good for us. Love thy neighbour, he said.